I Never Told Kathy Sierra to Shut Her Gob (But I Wish I Would Have)

March 28th, 2007.

I see how it is.

Someone threatens Kathy Sierra and everyone starts throwing my name into the argument as if it were me who told her to shut her gob.

First of all, if you don’t see the difference between vaguely threatening rape and making fun of a haircut, then really, I have nothing to say to you.

Second of all, I’m not all that impressed with Kathy’s ‘death threats.’ I’ve gotten creepier and more detailed threats in my inbox and considering the fact that I don’t publish my email address, the authors actually went to some effort to track me down. However, I generally do not worry about them. Do you want to know why? Perhaps it has something to do with the fact that I’m ANONYMOUS.

See, that’s the thing that Kathy and her ilk will casually leave out when describing the heinous ways in which they were ‘attacked.’ They’ll leave out the part where they could have taken steps to protect themselves and their family, but they choose not to. Instead, they published their names, email addresses, phone numbers, dental records, credit reports, and maps to their fucking houses online simply because they deemed the fame and notoriety more important than their personal safety. Yet when someone says something mean, they’ll demand full access to the Victim Card.

Quick side note: Does anyone else find it disconcerting that all these strong, independent women turn into piles of jelly the second they face the smallest bit of adversity? I mean, one second, they are kicking ass and taking names in the world! They are every bit as smart and strong and capable as a man! Then someone calls them a whore and you find them hiding in their houses in need of protection from the big, bad, cyber bully. Women, which is it? Are you tough or are you weak? Or you capable or are you in need of help? Are you fearless or are you a coward? Pick a fucking personality, for Christ’s sake!

Anyway, I’m really starting to resent the implication that anonymity automatically makes a person into a criminal. It all sounds so very Republican, don’t you think? I can almost see the creeps in office, pointing their snooty little fingers at me, and demanding, “The only reason you would resent being spied on is because you have something to hide.” It was bullshit then and it’s still bullshit now. Perhaps, I just believe I have a right to privacy? What’s next anyway? The Patriot Act?


Daily, I am shocked and amazed by the millions of people who would gladly give up their liberties all in the name of fear.

The demands that the Internet be regulated are no exception. Even worse, they are completely futile. Regulations on the Internet won’t magically turn the whole world sane. A psycho is a psycho is a psycho. This is true whether the name is darkvampire12 or Roger Clementine. The claims that Kathy’s scenario would be less scary if she had a real name written under the threats are laughable. If anything, I would think a real name would be a bit more intimidating. You can let your imagination run wild and conjure the image of a face to match a real name.

If the argument is the threat would have never happened in the first place if the Internet weren’t anonymous, then I still don’t understand what the big fuss is all about. The implication there is the threat is merely ridiculous posturing that never should have been taken seriously in the first place. If that’s the case, then why be afraid?

I am in no way, shape, or form advocating threats of violence against any web writer. I am merely suggesting that web writers have a reasonable responsibility to take steps to protect themselves and their loved ones. Fear of their failings in this regard should not drive us to throw more of our freedoms away on their behalf.

And Kathy? If you’re reading this? Come out of your house, get a license to carry, and strap a knife to your thigh. Trust me; you’ll feel a lot better. The world quits looking so dark and scary the very second you throw away your Perpetual Victim Card.

Of course, that doesn’t necessarily translate into hits to your blog.

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